Does Insecurity Stand In The Way of Your Success?
June 5, 2019
Beis Moshiach in #1169, MyLife: Chassidus Applied

“MyLife: Chassidus Applied” with Rabbi Simon Jacobson

Theme: Fear of Success

Of all the forces that impede our ability to achieve success, one root cause stands out among them all: Insecurity. Insecurity has many names and many faces: Doubt. Fear. Distrust. Uncertainty. Skepticism. Cynicism. Indecisiveness. Avoidance. Ambiguity. Complacency. The list goes onTo be insecure for a short period is natural. However, when insecurity persists, and takes on persistent indecision, and time passes, a deep paralysis begins to fester and grow inside. On the surface level, it can often appear completely functional: Insecurity can be explained away and be even justified as healthy caution, when in truth it really is nothing more than a mask for fear and doubt.

If you are in a pattern of self-sabotage and/or underachieving, it is healthy to evaluate your sense of self-worth and your self-confidenceOur fears, inhibitions, and low self-confidence thrive when we dont have clarity. To build the confidence you need to be successful, look at your insecurity and its causes carefully. What has shaped you

Your childhood

Children begin to develop feelings of self-doubt and fear due to the adults and peers in their lives who project their own fears and subject impressionable children to criticism and judgment, undermining childrens inborn confidence. What kind of childhood did you haveIf you were invalidated and criticized, youre probably already living on the defensive. Did you parents or teachers give you the message that you were not good enough or that you were incompetent? Did the adults in your life support you or shut you down

Your relationships

Romance and intimacy bear and reflect on your self-esteem. Do you seek relationships to fill a voidto compensate for your own inadequacies and lack of love? Are you desperate? Self-destructive? How high are your standards? Does your intimate life cause you to experience cognitive dissonance? Do your romantic relationships build you up or break you down?

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